Our intentions mean “Nothing” to anyone but “us”. People will experience you through their own lens of perception. If you are receiving feedback different from your intention, this is a gift, and an opportunity for reflection on how “you” are truly showing up for others in the world.
Wow, I love a conversation that takes me to the next level in my learning, allowing me to wholly and authentically see the perspective of another and learn how to communicate more effectively in their space. Listening and immersing oneself in the embrace of expression with another human being is a gift.
Relationships are created, build, and destroyed all through conversation. The simple physiological act of turning thought into word and full expression is one of the great evolutionary perks we humans get to enjoy & endure! Life would be much simpler with a sniff, grunt and bark. But, we now have thought getting in the way of pheromones.
So WHAT? When engaging in a conversation, challenge yourself! How well can you listen? How well can you embrace the expression of another human being so as to truly SEE, HEAR & UNDERSTAND them? How can you acknowledge and respect the ear that listens to you?
Own your power… and start playing big in the design of “your” life. Why are you letting what someone else thinks control the decisions you are making in your life? If you are in need or crisis where will any of those people and their opinions be? Start getting honest with yourself.
This is a big one! It never fails that this topic will eventually come up with every client, at some point in their coaching journey. Healthy boundaries are essential to your spiritual survival. What does that mean? Well, when you give to much, when you fail to say “no”, when you ignore the inappropriate comment, etc. etc.. I can go on and on..well, you lie to yourself! Get clear with the direction of your moral compass. Listen to that “something is not right here” feeling, and respond with an authentic reaction. Sometimes we may not know where our boundaries lie until they are crossed, this will be accompanied by a regret response and usually an immediate feeling of exhaustion. Boundaries are a big deal when you are moving toward a vision. Ensuring you stay focused on tasks with presence is essential to completion of strategy.
So What? What current “obligations” are you enmeshed in that are a result of a failure to say “no”? What strategies do you have in place to accommodate a big ask that goes beyond what you are willing to give? Where are you spending time that does not contribute to the nurturing of your spirit? What are you involved in that is NOT providing a form of contribution to the life you desire, whether that be physically, mentally, spiritually or simply making you happy?
Must go…I have boundaries around how much time I can spend blogging, family time awaits! Ciao for now…
Have you ever noticed when you move from gratitude to longing it stirs discontentment? Stay in gratitude while believing and working toward a vision. When the drive turns to longing with a shift in the energy that creates an anxious response return to gratitude, be present, and breathe! Oh, a cup of tea, yoga, a run, or a brain dump always helps too!