The universe will interrupt your overly scheduled day to show you what is really important in your life. This long weekend has not been what we expected. The vision of family time, hiking, beach and play were disrupted by my daughter having a stomach flu. We had family time, a million cuddles, lots of heartfelt words, and a ton of care. When our children are sick we immediately zone in on what is important in this life. Nothing else mattered but loving on her and making her comfortable. The challenge is to stay aligned with what is important without the crisis situation.
Sometimes it takes one of these shocker in your face moments to make you stop, get present and align you to reality. Hopefully this reality check stays within the bounds of personal safety and does not completely shatter your world. If your wake up call is a subtle stir with just enough force to slightly rock you, that is a blessing. I had one of these “wake up calls” a few years ago. A subtle statement without the weight of reality that packed enough punch to knock me into my chair for some self analysis. I was forced to look at how I was prioritizing my life and work. I realized my values were in conflict with how I wanted to be living my life and how I was actually participating.
My work life was dominating my time. Working at least ten to sixteen hour days. Out all day as a normal work day, then following up in the evenings, weekend events, meetings, and administration. The job required a commitment, irregular hours, and a definite passion for what I was doing. I loved it, but, I also knew that I had to set some boundaries and get processes in place to work smarter. Part of my job was working with children with diabetes. When my daughter would ask me not to go to work I would say, “Mommy has to go help the kids with diabetes!”. The urgency for me to create more balance and rhythm in my life would show up with a simple statement from my daughter. “Mom, I wish I had diabetes, so I could spend more time with you!” My blessed, healthy child was wishing to have an incurable disease so she could have more time with me! This knocked me to the floor and took my breath away. I held her and sobbed. I am extremely passionate about this disease as it affects some of my closest friends, children I love, my sister in law, countless customers that that I have had the pleasure of serving and it took my aunts life. In spite of my passion I knew at that moment that was not optimally serving my daughter, my clients or taking care of myself.
This reality check was exactly the push I needed to sit down and map out how I could structure my life for more presence in what was truly important to me. It stopped me in my tracks, made me evaluate my priorities and get on track with the life I truly wanted to create. The result of my wake up call is measured in moments, hugs, time, presence and living in alignment with my soul. This moment also birthed a process and program that helps people gain clarity and results in their lives. If I was experiencing this, then other people were to and I could help them through my own pain, experience and solution. I have complete gratitude for all of this experience, the overwork, the sadness, the wake-up call and my daughter. All of this has helped me to connect with myself and other people that “have it all” and are somehow living through the chaos.
Sometimes the simplest acknowledgment of a moment is all you need to completely alter the course of your life. Pay attention to what scares you, the subtle moments that have big meaning. Listen to your child’s idle chatter, read those impactful words in the magazine twice and take pictures of what changes your breathing pattern. Wow moments are all around us, be present enough to absorb them.