WARNING – this post will require you big girl/boy undies! A little passive/aggressive coaching for your soul.
The topic of perspective and attitude is coming up a lot lately in my practise, conversations and for me personally. Whether we are building dreams in our purpose or working a job we are going to have amazing days and days we don’t love. You have the privilege to decide how you are going to look at your present situation. You really do have the power to choose the reaction that will give you the most productive result. You can allow the present situation to cause you to be in triggered reaction or you can move to an acceptance that takes you to a new creative space. Let the signs that your heart is not singing come and move you to curiosity around change. BUT, being grumpy, angry, in fear and loathing about your current vocation is a choice. Wherever you are; you have made choices that have led you there, OWN them, and make new choices. Playing in a voice of “victim” will not serve you in moving forward. Misery and depression are born of the denial of what “is” versus an acceptance and ownership of what has shown up “for” us. If you are living in the 1st world then you have the blessing, opportunity & responsibility to create a life beyond survival.
So, WARNING bold statement coming.. “fear, loathing, sadness, frustration and anger around your life purpose, finances and working circumstances is a first world luxury”. Awesome…Right, that means you can change them. You will be required to dive into your darkness, find resources, reach for the lifeboat, change, or even just utter those impossible words “HELP”. But, it is all there for you. If you are relating, hating or at all having a reaction to this statement. Great.. now dive into it and prepare yourself to change and grow with these simple questions! These will not perform a miracle, but, maybe they can get you moving in a fresh direction of perspective.
-What current circumstances am I allowing to dictate my mood and effect my general outlook?
-How could I shift to another perspective around this situation?
-What is the new perspective that I am going to take regarding this?
-What small changes could I make today to move me toward what I am curious about?
-Who could I ask for help?
-Where could I have more compassion for myself and for others?
-What could I do to feel more in alignment with my values, priorities, and what my soul really wants?
Now, how about some love after that rant. You are here on this earth to birth that light that is within you. We are waiting for you to show us who you are. We want to see you. We want to love you. We know you are in there, even when you do not. We know you didn’t mean to shout, to disengage, to dismiss, to be rude, to judge, to criticize as this is not your true nature. We will continue to show up for you until you show up for yourself.
See you on the other side where a more loving, patient, and kind perspective awaits.
Disclaimer: I do realize that not everyone born in the first world has limitless opportunity and may face unthinkable circumstances, this blog is not about these people. This blog is for you, the one with running water, food on your table, a roof over your head, car in the driveway, reading this on a computer with your Starbucks coffee next to you. So, please save your rant around “elitism” for another time.