Do you love wearing your busy badge?
When asked, “How are you?” is your first response? “I am so busy!”
If so, you may be losing business, appearing incompetent, disengaged, uninterested, looking for attention and lacking time management skills. Let’s be honest, everyone is busy. So, why not ditch the “I’m busy” and gush about something else? No one is impressed or believes you are any busier than they are anyway. Using this statement may be hurting your reputation as you appear to be unequipped with the time management skills to manage the choices you are making.
When your response to everything is to express you are “so busy” as opposed to the many other adjectives at your disposal it says, “I really don’t have time to tell you how I really am, how I spend my time and I don’t have the energy to get present enough to explain.”
Now I know that is not what your heart or your head really wants to express. But, you are choosing to take the easy way out and allow your ‘to do list’ state of mind to be all that you are bothering to express. This is sort of like when my mom would ask me “What did you do today?”. I would say “I cleaned the house and stuff”. What the heck is “and stuff”? Well it was my way of letting my mom know that I was really “busy” and the “and stuff” I can guarantee included a plethora of wasted time. This was my way of avoiding a long conversation about all I did not do and how much time I actually spent messing around in the meaningless.
When you choose as our default “I am so busy”, those interested in working or playing with you get the message that there may not be room for their request, business or relationship in your busy life. When you cannot handle what is already on your plate to the point that it drives you to use “I am so busy” as your expressed state others do not want to add further burden or business to you. You may have thought they would be impressed and think you are in demand with your busy badge status. When in actuality they don’t really have a desire to compete for your time. They will look elsewhere for people that take the time to engage in conversation and explanation beyond a “busy” status update.
How about implementing a few more adjectives into your daily grind in response to greetings, requests, or conversation? What would it feel like to stop, get present and reveal a little more about what is really happening in your world? We care, we want to know and we asked!
Try these on:
I am well
Things are really heating up here, but we can handle it.
We love all the business that is coming our way.
The kids have a lot of activities and I am so grateful that I am the one that gets to be on these adventures with them.
I have chose to prioritize other things at this time that require my full attention.
We are so blessed right now with all the opportunities coming our way.
Now go ahead, make up your own and the next time you want to speak the words “I am so busy”. Stop! What else could you be instead of ‘busy’? How about “Awesome”?