Once again I found myself in a conversation that suddenly turned into an interview. Typical when someone finds out you play in the “coaching” arena. This is what came to my mind and fell out of my mouth at that moment I was asked what is “Success and how do you measure it?”
I see it as the ability and the freedom to shift one’s perspective under any circumstance and emit that from your being. I think success is a practice, just like anything else in life, sometimes it appears in a glorious victory and other times it’s messy and not so clear.
I think it’s a feeling you have, and if you’re intuitive and emotionally aware you let go and allow it to take root in ways that are true for you, free of any thought or opinion from anyone else.
If I think of coaching questions around this they would be: Can you shift from anger to love? Can you see a setback as a possible opportunity? How can you find gratitude in the most tragic of times, even if it’s just for your own breath?
Regarding the measurement of success, well, the business side of me wants to say it depends on the project, but if I look at my entire life I would say, “In any moment, can I shift from the way my ego is deceiving me when it comes to measuring success?” When I look at what is around me—what I’ve accumulated, the size of my savings, my house, my healthy body—can I go deeper in the measurement of it? Can I strip away all the material and be left emotionally naked with myself? Can I still find a feeling of success and perspective in that moment? What is my soul’s reaction to standing there alone with nothing look like? Can I still have the perception of success in the non-attachment and have gratitude that I have breath and life? How much gratitude can I bring to that state of non attachment? How can I get to that state of non attachment and oneness with myself?
I think for me personally, I have to say it’s also my state of freedom and how free I am feeling in any moment. Can I relax into the ease and the chaos at the same time? Wherever I am in a moment, can I see the blessings that surround me, the simple things—the smell of my daughter’s hair as her head is pressed into my chest, hiking with my dog in nature, the feel of my horse under me as we canter, my husband embracing me while I’m washing dishes?
I see success as very simple. I still love to throw in the excitement of hard work and adventure, money, and travel, but the success piece, I think, well, that is simple.