Well here we are, December has arrived with all the fix-ins. Stuffed with parties, shopping, traffic and a little bit of some good old fashioned, traditional ANXIETY….throw a little guilt & expectation on the side and you have the perfect recipe for a holiday “Beast”. If you are finding yourself plagued by this you are not alone. Clients frequently confess to me the rife they feel over what is supposed to be a time of joy and focus on family. I recall a friend last year that literally decided their was to be no Xmas, she did not do so in any dramatic fashion, she just refused to participate. Her family who had always been the receivers of her festive decor and rarely assisted in the affair woke to realize that the Grinch had not stole Xmas, but rather ma ma had just handed it over to him. Before you go into shock, these were grown children and they are not suffering from the experience. What this so powerfully demonstrates is that a “choice” was made not to participate. Guess what, we always have this choice. We can create new traditions, book a vacation, go with a little less, invite new friends & welcome it all with grace!
I recently received this fabulous question..
“Personally, from a coaching perspective, I’d love to know how you manage Xmas parties, family Xmas, house, business, and health right now?”
So, how do I manage. Well … I breathe, then I get really honest about what priorities are aligned with my agenda. I make powerful choices and only commit to what my family can handle. Prioritize my fitness & health routine with some extra doses of vitamin C & Cold fx. Don’t overcommit then flake out, be honest from the start about your limitations and honer them. Oh and the house is a mess for several days in a row, the beds do not get made every day. I ask for help when I need it. I accept that I am human. Realize no one is watching me .. but me.. and allow the beautiful imperfection that is life to shine and be seen.
Be an example of imperfection and free others to be easier on themselves. High performance is important, just ensure the measuring stick is of your own design.
What are you going to let go of this holiday season?
How can you trust more that it will all be OK and turn out exactly as it should?
Who will you ask for help? When will you ask for help? How will you ask for help?
How can you be easier on yourself and less self judging?
Happy Holidays, en”joy” the season, the love & the miracles it represents. Love Love Love