We have a choice in how we look at everything.
What are you viewing as a burden that may actually be a privilege disguised as work, have to, children, aging parents, husbands, pets, the book club?
This especially can hit home for us mama’s & papa’s when so much of the day consists of doing for others. The routine of thankless chores that keep our lives in motion, a roof over our head and our children’s brains & bodies nurtured. So, if you are feeling frustrated, unhappy, or like “life” is a constant ride on the adrenal fatigue train, you may need to analyze your attitude toward what you have “chosen” for a life design.
We know you love your children. But, are there some moments when resentment kicks in as you cannot remember the last time you worked out, had a mani/pedi, or did a single thing for yourself? Start to see that this as “your” choice.
What resources could you enlist to assist you in getting one hour to yourself a week? (start small)
Our children are gifts we have been granted, raising them to be amazing adults is a privilege.
What if you started seeing those burden moments as moments of privilege? How would the energy shift in your home if your attitude moved just slightly to more of a thought of joy & inclusion around all the routine?
This recently kicked me in the “ass”.. with pets. Clearly it is a choice to have a pet. Well my husband actually made the choice to “burden” our lives with a new dog last fall after the passing of our beloved Boston Terrier. He needed something fury to love and the house felt empty. So, my little lesson begins. I love animals, I swear I do, but, I also like my shoes, coats & several other possessions to stay intact especially my Cole Haans. So after 6 months of carnage I snapped, (well I have snapped a lot, but this was the last straw). For 24 hours I contemplated my lack of love for the dog, cursed my husband for not spending enough time training him.. and wa wa wa. Ridiculous! Then I stripped naked & saw my butt in the mirror. My butt that has been shrinking, rising & hardening over the past 6 months. Why? Because, I have the “privilege” of walking that fury dog up an amazing mountain in lush greenery every day. He is the best training partner ever, he doesn’t talk, he pulls when I am tired, stops for pee breaks so I can rest. My god.. (my dog).. takes me for a god walk every single day. He says, “Mom, I am hyper & we will get out in nature together, you will get fit, I will take a shit & we will all be happy.” Wow what a privilege to have a sweet fury boy to love that also makes my ass small & of course helps with my cardiovascular fitness. (it’s not all about the bod). This is a simple act of recognition; that along with all the care, work & worry that goes into anything worthwhile there will be moments that it doesn’t feel easy to love. But, if you take a moment to get naked you may see that there is a whole lotta good stuff all around you. Life is amazing & full of privilege once you lose your attitude of burden and see the “joy” in the simple!
Disclaimer. I reserve the right to freak out if he touches another pair of shoes! I will keep him, but, I will freak out.
Also, changing your attitude isn’t easy, it takes consciousness so be gentle with yourself.