What’s in a label? Well..to prove my point, right now… take 10 seconds and list as many adjectives as you can about yourself. Now…look at the list, do these “adjectives” perhaps have a “label-ish” quality to them? What I mean is, have you adapted, related and amalgamated a perception into the core of your very being? These are just questions, not meant to be negative or positive, just questions … but…notice how you may have reacted to having the “adjective” you used to describe yourself transformed into the word “label”. Was something stirred? and why am I bugging you about all this?
High Performance, high performer, all around “kick ass and take names” sorta chic. I have been known to relish in this label. But, this label has mounted an assault on the state of my priorities. As, how can I be high performing at “having it all”? Can the corporate superstar be the awesome go to mommy? Can the top sales rep still be princess of fitness? How can we be High Performing in all of the performances that we have designed into our lives? Well, gracefully I am admitting that this high performer had to remove her crown as the eternal juggle to play “the best” in too many realms, resulted in a “last” performance, a child in tears, 5 extra pounds and finally a breakthrough of the most amazing kind! The acknowledging and admittance to myself that I “failed” and dropped all the balls is the most freeing experience I could ask for. Now, I have the opportunity to sit back evaluate and see which “labels” that I want to pick up or maybe just alter slightly . The expectations are much softer and guess what, the world did not crumble just because I did not achieve 100% to forecast in the last quarter of my life journey.
So, some of these labels need a little altering, Super-mom is changing to “Present-Mom” as in.. mommy is present in her mind when in the presence of her sweetness. Super fit chic is .. Goddess of curvy health & happiness…etc..you get the point.
Deciding where we throw our passion is critical to our self preservation. Be open to stretching your capacity, but, listen to the voice that says “reaching critical mass”. Accept that this performance may not have been your best but, you will create the opportunity to shine again. Pick up what is truly important, make adjustments in the other areas to ensure that you stay in the whelmed zone.
Revisit your priorities frequently deciding which ones are on the “high performance” list and which ones need to come in second for awhile. Ask for help, get a coach to help find some clarity on what you truly value at this time. What and who really need your attention right now? Now get your ass back out there and perform!
Thank you to Jason, Siome, Mom, Michele, Veronica, Melissa, Natasha, Emily, Dan, Natalie, Cara, Susan Washington, Oprah, Amy Lister, Molly Edge, Brene Brown, Byron Katie, Danielle Laporte, and Robin Sharma.. either your presence or your written work has grown my capacity and shifted my space on this little journey. Namaste xoxoxoxoxo